The topic is on marriages. It isn't about me getting married soon or what, however, perhaps in a couple of years time... I may have to go through with my love one on this phase of our lives.

I was asking an old friend, during my birthday - where I spend it in camp, when she is getting married. She replied me, saying that she would be in about 3 years time, provided that they have enough money to do so.

I wasn't shocked or anything, but it ponders me that in 3 years time, I may be a university undergrad or just a working adult, with a diploma certification. Ability to marry at that time, seems impossible. I wouldn't like to use my dad's money to do so anyway.

Some say that marriage is the end for a man, while others say that marriage is another turning point in life. I feel that a happy marriage is whereby both the couples are comfortable in living with each other as well as to truly accept each other's advantages and flaws. Some couples can date very well, but when it comes to living under one roof, things happen and the relationship turn sour.

Couples do fight at times, however the after-effect of it is totally dependent on both parties. Some couples stay strong and grew with each other. Others simply gave up and lead a separate life altogether. While some others will start to find comfort in another person or thing - actually finding comfort in another person is better than in a thing... leads to weird fetish afterwards. Whatever it is, it isn't like some celebrity or fairytale story where happily ever after exist all the time.

Compromising, tolerating, loving and many many more traits plays a part in a complete and stable marriage. Of coz, a child in the marriage would be a big part in stabilizing a marriage, as long as the couple has a sense of responsibility towards each other and their child.

Responsibility grows as more power is given, status is achieve and as you age. Like in the movie: "With great power comes great responsibility". It is totally true especially when you are leading not only your own personal life but also leading other people their lives.

It's been a while since I blog, ever since I entered the Army. Well, Army life to some may not seem workable, but slowly and surely, with effort and faith in yourself... you will adjust and learn to live life proper.

Aside from the physical regime and the punishment... the fun part of Army is definitely the times when you share the suffering, laughter and knowledge with your buddies, be it in the bunk, platoon or company level. Similar to scouting, a scout makes friends, establishes and maintains harmonious relations... a scout never likes to be alone, except during personal reflection. He is someone who likes to share and mix around with others. So if a scout, is to declare that he is a lonely scout... then he is not a true scout.

There is no "I" in a team. This is constantly re-in force among the soldiers... and similarly to any uniform, sports, classroom and work group. 2 brains are better than 1... you multiply that by a few more times, you get a whole team of people having creative ideas.

Well, of coz, there are always good people and selfish people around. No one is bad in nature... just selfish, I guess. As long as one person in a team, decide to go his way, the team will not be as efficient as before. Similarly, in a scout unit... as long as certain members decided to be selfish and do things at their pace or even not assist others, definitely the efficiency and work-rate will be slowly... others will be burden by this act. Even in Army, as long as one person decided to be slow and walk around, instead of run... the timing, cohesion and execution will be gone.

Even in a relationship, as long as one side of the party decided to be selfish and not care of the other person... how can the relationship continue effectively and happily? Isn't it as good as a one-sided love?

As I did my room today, I decided to paste all the past letters, birthday cards, Christmas cards on my cardboard front. It's an unusual thing to do, but since I am bored... I just decided to do so. Reading through the cards and pasting them one at a time... it brings a lot of memories from people like Yan Lin (aka Boi Boi), Jasmine (aka Lucky), Mei Mei, Amanda Jie Jie, Sista and Owl, relatives and more...

The weather is getting hot these days... H1N1 is on-going and now... cough seems to be a common thing in the public. Do take good care of yourself, whoever that reads this. And drink more water...

Special notes:

To My Beloved Dear:
Thank you for taking time off to spend time with me and writing letters to me, through the 2 way notebooks that we somehow created. Haha... I love you and I want you to be happy. Do rest more and drink more water... There is no thing as forever but good things sure last long, only if you want it to. :)

To My Beloved Mei Mei:
Thank you for helping me and going the extra mile as a god-sister. Didn't expect to last this long even after secondary school. I hope this goes on and on. Keep healthy and keep happy too!

To My Other God-sisters:
Apologies for not keeping in contact as frequent due to my NS commitment... I want you ladies to know that you are still remembered and love by me!!! I hope to give some time and meet up with you all too!