The topic is on marriages. It isn't about me getting married soon or what, however, perhaps in a couple of years time... I may have to go through with my love one on this phase of our lives.
I was asking an old friend, during my birthday - where I spend it in camp, when she is getting married. She replied me, saying that she would be in about 3 years time, provided that they have enough money to do so.
I wasn't shocked or anything, but it ponders me that in 3 years time, I may be a university undergrad or just a working adult, with a diploma certification. Ability to marry at that time, seems impossible. I wouldn't like to use my dad's money to do so anyway.
Some say that marriage is the end for a man, while others say that marriage is another turning point in life. I feel that a happy marriage is whereby both the couples are comfortable in living with each other as well as to truly accept each other's advantages and flaws. Some couples can date very well, but when it comes to living under one roof, things happen and the relationship turn sour.
Couples do fight at times, however the after-effect of it is totally dependent on both parties. Some couples stay strong and grew with each other. Others simply gave up and lead a separate life altogether. While some others will start to find comfort in another person or thing - actually finding comfort in another person is better than in a thing... leads to weird fetish afterwards. Whatever it is, it isn't like some celebrity or fairytale story where happily ever after exist all the time.
Compromising, tolerating, loving and many many more traits plays a part in a complete and stable marriage. Of coz, a child in the marriage would be a big part in stabilizing a marriage, as long as the couple has a sense of responsibility towards each other and their child.
Responsibility grows as more power is given, status is achieve and as you age. Like in the movie: "With great power comes great responsibility". It is totally true especially when you are leading not only your own personal life but also leading other people their lives.
I was asking an old friend, during my birthday - where I spend it in camp, when she is getting married. She replied me, saying that she would be in about 3 years time, provided that they have enough money to do so.
I wasn't shocked or anything, but it ponders me that in 3 years time, I may be a university undergrad or just a working adult, with a diploma certification. Ability to marry at that time, seems impossible. I wouldn't like to use my dad's money to do so anyway.
Some say that marriage is the end for a man, while others say that marriage is another turning point in life. I feel that a happy marriage is whereby both the couples are comfortable in living with each other as well as to truly accept each other's advantages and flaws. Some couples can date very well, but when it comes to living under one roof, things happen and the relationship turn sour.
Couples do fight at times, however the after-effect of it is totally dependent on both parties. Some couples stay strong and grew with each other. Others simply gave up and lead a separate life altogether. While some others will start to find comfort in another person or thing - actually finding comfort in another person is better than in a thing... leads to weird fetish afterwards. Whatever it is, it isn't like some celebrity or fairytale story where happily ever after exist all the time.
Compromising, tolerating, loving and many many more traits plays a part in a complete and stable marriage. Of coz, a child in the marriage would be a big part in stabilizing a marriage, as long as the couple has a sense of responsibility towards each other and their child.
Responsibility grows as more power is given, status is achieve and as you age. Like in the movie: "With great power comes great responsibility". It is totally true especially when you are leading not only your own personal life but also leading other people their lives.
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9:24:00 AM
1 Comments:
Hi It's Pufferfish here. hehehe. i can't believe this is my first time reading your blog. And im pretty sure, this entry refers to me?? hahahahha. You've matured alot marlin. And it's good on you. Your posts in the past seemed a little bit darker and more solemn. But i am glad now that you've found your own happiness.:).
And yes, i agree with your thoughts on marriage and relationships.
Anyway, take care in camp and remember to introduce me to your girlfriend for sure!! :)
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