This is the last day for the module on Understanding Relationship: Love and Sex. Wow, I can't believe how fast 6 weeks had past when I was still grumbling about the fact that I got to go through with the lessons. Well, as usual, there is always something interesting to learn and find out about in the module.
We watched a video about how couples will tend to look similar to each other when they are together for long. And that the more you're in love with your partner, the more you'll idealise him or her. This is quite through to a certain extent, as some relatives did mentioned to me once that she looked similar to me in certain ways. My mom and dad was commented the same way, when they are together.
After which, some scientist tried to explain why love is blind. He mentioned that when people are in love, their brain will be filled with "feel-good" chemicals which will suppress your critical thinking system. Therefore, it actually meant (to my opinion), you become dumb about your love one when you're hopelessly in love.
More importantly, the lesson talked about break ups between couples. I always have this mentality that if I ever were to break up with the girl, it would be my fault as I failed to fulfill my duties as a boyfriend. Don't ask me what duties there are, but there is bound to have certain aspect in the relationship that the boy needs to take care of. Therefore, when the relationship breaks down, it doesn't always have to be the partner at fault. It maybe due to the person itself such as habits and characters that doesn't click.
Most importantly, during the relationship, like I had always mentioned TO BE HONEST!! Some couples do not talk to each other honestly, due to the fear of rejection. Such that if you were to want to spend your time with your love one, and your love one told you that he or she hasn't have time for you. You'll definitely fee like shit, right? Thus, when problems arises, we lie so that our love ones will not feel the pain.
How many times, had I wanted to tell her to stop for a while to spend time with me, so that we can be alone, looking into each other's eyes and talk to each other face to face? How many times, had I wanted to tell her that I want her to be at my company? But why didn't I say it?!
Among all of the topics learnt so far, the most important that I felt in the relationship is doing 'repairs' so that the relationship and bond will not be stained and thus, to make the next communication a better one. It's definitely hard to praise someone that is in conflict to you. However, by repairing your conversation, would allow the conflict to scale down instead of escalating. Most couples do 'repairs', but unknowingly. Well think about it?!
Ultimately, I feel that I can understand human relationships a little better. However, when it comes more than a textbook. Your love for your partner determines how long you guys are going to be together.
Well, all the best and blessing for new couples and couples that maintain even in the greatest adversity.
We watched a video about how couples will tend to look similar to each other when they are together for long. And that the more you're in love with your partner, the more you'll idealise him or her. This is quite through to a certain extent, as some relatives did mentioned to me once that she looked similar to me in certain ways. My mom and dad was commented the same way, when they are together.
After which, some scientist tried to explain why love is blind. He mentioned that when people are in love, their brain will be filled with "feel-good" chemicals which will suppress your critical thinking system. Therefore, it actually meant (to my opinion), you become dumb about your love one when you're hopelessly in love.
More importantly, the lesson talked about break ups between couples. I always have this mentality that if I ever were to break up with the girl, it would be my fault as I failed to fulfill my duties as a boyfriend. Don't ask me what duties there are, but there is bound to have certain aspect in the relationship that the boy needs to take care of. Therefore, when the relationship breaks down, it doesn't always have to be the partner at fault. It maybe due to the person itself such as habits and characters that doesn't click.
Most importantly, during the relationship, like I had always mentioned TO BE HONEST!! Some couples do not talk to each other honestly, due to the fear of rejection. Such that if you were to want to spend your time with your love one, and your love one told you that he or she hasn't have time for you. You'll definitely fee like shit, right? Thus, when problems arises, we lie so that our love ones will not feel the pain.
How many times, had I wanted to tell her to stop for a while to spend time with me, so that we can be alone, looking into each other's eyes and talk to each other face to face? How many times, had I wanted to tell her that I want her to be at my company? But why didn't I say it?!
Among all of the topics learnt so far, the most important that I felt in the relationship is doing 'repairs' so that the relationship and bond will not be stained and thus, to make the next communication a better one. It's definitely hard to praise someone that is in conflict to you. However, by repairing your conversation, would allow the conflict to scale down instead of escalating. Most couples do 'repairs', but unknowingly. Well think about it?!
Ultimately, I feel that I can understand human relationships a little better. However, when it comes more than a textbook. Your love for your partner determines how long you guys are going to be together.
Well, all the best and blessing for new couples and couples that maintain even in the greatest adversity.
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